Sorry to say but we can all get taken in by this insanity. Love is not about the external qualities or quantities of someone. Love is about the heart and soul connection you make with the other person. That is not something your rational (left side) brain should argue you out of. If your heart imprints on someone, at some point you will need to find out if there is a reason for this. Otherwise, even if you find the "all that" person in the eyes of society, you will be living a lie and your heart will let you know it.
Love is about enjoying the experience of the other person living and growing and changing before your eyes. It is not about judgement. It is not about control, dominance, or submission, or power. It is about acceptance, encouragement, and as the French say:
"L'amour ce n'est pas se regarder l'un l'autre; C'est regarder ensemble dans la meme direction."
(Love is not looking at each other; It is looking together in the same direction) Love is about helping each other learn, grow, and achieve a mutual purpose for everyone's highest good. It is the most powerful and positive force in the universe.
The rest is just media hype and like so many of the other advertised products - having the kind of partner that looks good on the outside but doesn't resonate with your inner being, will leave you ultimately unfulfilled..