That is a good thing of course! People actually do mana
ge, despite the best efforts of the society and the family group to normalize children, to emerge, if not unscathed then still authentic
Problem is, they don't always remember who exactly they are. They just know that they are not "normal". (Whatever "normal" is) So they have to go figure it out. They set off on the journey.
Of course if we had a society which would recognize and support the fact that everyone is different and there is no "normal", we would be better off. Perhaps it will someday come to that. Sooner than later would be good. Because other more sinister factions are waiting in the wings and the governments seem to be panicking to get more control than ever. Which means they feel they are losing control.
Finding our what you want means sorting out the programing from your own desires. The program is:
Phase One: grow up, get an education and then a job, get married, have children This Phase locks you in for twenty to thrity years. Is that what you want?
Phase Two: Buy a house, furnish it and buy lots of other items too raise your children and see them educated, make sure they are "normal", when they leave you can downsize the house and move to somewhere with other older people and wait to die.
I don't know about you but I never did like the program much. I did get pulled into the Phase One part but am hoping to get out of it alive.
Maybe it is your thing - more power! But maybe it isn't and you would rather not have children. You would rather travel the globe for example. Spend time with yourself - alone and get to know who you are and what you want. Then go and do that. Don't ask everyone else's opinion about it, (you likely won't get an unbiased one)just go do it.
Best of luck on the journey!